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Vulnerability

  • “People need to be reminded more than they need to be instructed.” – Samuel Johnson
  • Vulnerability – capable of being physically or emotionally wounded; open to attack or damage; liable to increased penalties but entitled to increased benefits.
  • Being vulnerable can bring great reward.
  • Being vulnerable brings pain and suffering, which is counter-cultural.
Three fears that keep us from being vulnerable:
1. The fear of losing the business (the fear of being rejected)
Rejection is something we are called to.
  • We have to enter the danger.
  • We have to speak the kind truth.
2. The fear of being embarrassed
  • When we are serving others we have to do things and ask things that may embarrass us.
  • When people know you are there to help them do better, they will let you in.
  • We have to celebrate our mistakes. When we acknowledge our humanity it is attractive to people and they want to be around us
3. The fear of feeling inferior
  • Do the dirty work.
  • Show people you are willing to do whatever you are asking them to do.
  • We need to be be more interested in others than we are interested in ourself.
  • Humility is not humiliation, it is the nobel choice to forgo your status and use your influence for the good of others before yourself.
  • Humility does does not make your great, just like being great does not make you humble. Humility makes the great greater.
Humility is common sense.
  • We don’t know everything. Expertise in one area counts for very little in another area.
  • To preach well in our church, we have to listen to the wisdom that is in the pew. We don’t know everything about everything.
Humility is beautiful
  • We are more attracted to the great that are humble than we are to the great that know they are great and want us to know it to.
  • Humility has not always been beautiful. It actually meant slave in ancient Greece.
  • Jesus’ crucifixion changed the view of humility in the ancient world.
  • The Bible was the first text to connect greatness with humility.
  • Western culture has been profoundly changed by the cross. The cross changed everything.
Humility is generative
  • Humility generates new knowledge.
  • The humble place is the learning place.
  • The humble place is the place of flourishing.
Humility is persuasive
  • A person’s humility makes them believable.
  • Character compels
Humility inspires
  • When a leader is humble, we aspire to be like them because they, for a moment seem to be just like us and us just like them.
Four tools of leadership:
Ability Authority Character Persuasion

  • Wherever you are, God has called you to be a steward over a vision.
  • Are you going to allow anyone to stop you from stewarding that vision.
What does a person do when the truth comes to them? Truth = Reality
Three different types of people: Wise, Fools, Evil
The Wise
  • When the light comes to them, that person adjusts themselves to match the light.
  • When the truth comes to them, they change… themselves or something else to match reality.
  • When you confront them, they thank you.
  • When you are leading a wise person, you talk to them. You coach them and give them feedback. You resource them.
  • With a wise person, the challenge is making sure they are a match for what you need.
Fool
  • A fool may be the brightest, most gifted person sitting at the table. Most of the time they are.
  • The problem is, unlike the wise person, when the light shows up, they adjust the light.
  • They try to change or adjust the truth.
  • They shoot the messenger.
  • The fool denies reality. They get angry.
  • They will not own any part of the problem.
  • When dealing with a fool, a leader needs to experience the feeling of hopelessness.
  • With a fool, you have to stop talking. They have stopped your vision.
  • A leader has to have a different conversation at this point. You have to talk about the pattern.
  • Leaders ask: how can I talk to you where you will understand?
  • That is followed up by asking what we will do if that does not work. What will the consequences be?
  • Fools do not change when truth comes to them that they can get rid of. They only change when truth comes to them that camps out with them.
  • The leadership challenge with the fool is that you limit your exposure, give consequences, give a clear choice, follow through
There is great hope for fools. If we can lead them right, we can redeem their giftedness. This takes guts
Evil
  • These people have destruction in their heart. They want to inflict pain.
  • These people can only be dealt with with lawyers, guns and money.
  • Stay far from these people.
Don’t let someone else’s character problem stop you from your vision.
  • If you watch one episode of the evening news, you know our world is broken.
  • The fixes that are going to be required are not going to be easy assignments. They will not be short-term. They don’t come with great benefits.
  • God is looking for leaders to stand up and say they are looking for the tough assignments.
  • Part of the problem with leaders is that they can see into the future a little bit.
  • This world is not going to get fixed unless leaders are available for tough assignments.
  • What is holding you back from the tough assignments?
  • We don’t choose where to be born, but we do choose whether to be sinners or saints.
  • If you want to be a hero, do what God wants you to do.
  • To be elegant comes from the inside, and comes from love. To love means to give, and to give until it hurts.
  • When I touch a poor child, I’m touching Jesus. When I listen to a poor child, I listen to Jesus’ heart for humanity.
  • To be in silence is to be fully inside yourself. It is hard.
  • In silence, you leave many to be with the one.