This is the second entry of “The Top Ten Things I Have Learned This Year.” You can see part one here.
3. Loyalty is a two way street.
- There are those that think that above everything else, loyalty to them and their agenda is the most important thing… even if it means turning your back on what God has called you to do. For some reason, some people think that they deserve your loyalty just because of their position. But loyalty usually only goes one way with them. They are the first one to throw you under the bus if it helps them avoid looking bad.
- Those that preach and demand loyalty from the pulpit are usually the last ones that deserve it. You do not have to preach or demand loyalty. Loyalty is earned from people by your character and your actions. If you do not have good character, you will not have loyalty. If your actions stink or are always done with a personal agenda, you will not have loyalty. Hammering it from the pulpit only makes people resent you, not follow you. If you lead well, you will have the loyalty of the people you are leading.
- You have to model loyalty to receive it. If you are always the one expecting to receive, but never give loyalty, you do not deserve it. The team you work with needs to know that there is loyalty to the team… loyalty to one another in the day to day stuff (this obviously does not apply to covering sin or secret agendas of self-centered people).
4. If you think you are leading, but no one is following… you are just out for a walk
- No, this is not an original statement from me, but it is so true. My desire is to live a life for God that will impact other people. If God gives me the ability to lead, I need to lead where he wants me to go and to where He wants me to lead others to go. I NEVER want to be in a position where I decide I will lead where I want to go, or where I want others to go. That will not only hinder my ability to be who God has intended me to be, but it will hinder others from being able to be who God created them to be, which is the exact opposite of what we are suppose to be about.
That is it for this entry… part three tomorrow!